Western tradition has it that newlyweds would drink honey wine every day for the first month of their marriage, which is where the word honeymoon came from. All it takes is a little thought to surprise your beloved and reawaken the sweetness of those first days. The Club arranged for clinical psychologist Vivian Siu Ho Yee and neuro-linguistic programmer Wong King Lai to speak to members on building a happy marriage and relationships with children.
The days just after marriage are sweet, and to keep this feeling couples have to good communicators with language and gestures. Ms Siu encouraged members to see their marriages as a lifelong promise and express their love. For example:
- Tell your spouse what you feel
- Help with the housework or take care of children or relatives
- Physical contact like a touch on the shoulder, a hug or a kiss can express love
- Give a present to show your love
Ms Wong said that for a family to enjoy an eternal honeymoon the parents must build a strong relationship to give love to their children so that they grow up happy and healthy. Ms Wong gave some honeymoon tips:
It's easy for parents to forget their children's needs. Understand that growing is a process. You want your children to succeed, but don't have expectations beyond their age and level of development.
Children's language is different from adult language. The key to communicating with children is to observe their language, actions and reactions. Work out how to make them understand that they are loved and cared for.
Parents should be careful not to forget about the feelings of their partners because they are focusing all of their attention on the children. The most important thing for children's happiness is not good marks at school or an expensive home; it is a happy mother and father.
