Marriage is a lifetime commitment. The SHKP Club staged a marriage seminar on 20 August with speakers Ng Sze Yuen and Lee Yan Yi offering tips on a happy marriage.
Ng used Laozi's philosophy of water to highlight the key elements to a happy marriage:
- Humbleness
- Softness (manner)
- Variety (thoughtfulness)
- Open-mindedness
- Patience
Conflicts are avoidable. Ng cited the teaching of Thich Nh t H nh to encourage couples to be honest and open with each other when dealing with issues and avoid making comparisons with each other.
He also listed eight ways to stay happy in a marriage:
- Be understanding
- Remember to say sorry and thank you
- Admit and correct mistakes
- Be considerate
- Accept each other
- Be supportive
- Ask about the other's problems
- Talk about your problems
Lee summed up a happy marriage in AGE 
| A is APPRECIATION |
No one is perfect but can be perfect for each other |
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G is GROWTH |
Help each other grow and improve |
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E is EXPERIENCE, EMOTION and EMPATHY |
Share experience for a better mutual understanding, tell the other how you feel and be aware of their feelings. |
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SMILING FACE |
A smiling face can be a reminder to be happy and enjoy life. Watch a comedy for a good laugh or go on holiday |
The speakers also engaged audience in fun role playing. The seminar ended with much laughter and members said it was informative and lively.
