Mutual understanding is a key to harmonious marriage. The Club recently staged 'Mutual Understandings between a couple' seminar on 23 May with Lecturer and counsellor Dr Raymond Au Cheung-kong talking about family relationship and communications. The seminars attracted nearly 300 members and guests who were keen to learn more.

Lecturer and counsellor Dr Raymond Au Cheung-kong told the Mutual Understanding Between a Couple seminar that instead of criticizing or saying abusive words in an argument a couple should try to remain positive. He advised couples to rely on appreciation, affirmation and affection to build harmony.

Dr Au offers nine solutions:

1. Embrace marriage. Reassess the boundary with and develop emotional independence from original families.
2. Strike a balance between intimacy and personal independence.
3. Get ready for the challenge of raising children yet find time for intimacy.
4. Face unavoidable crisis and other adversities together.
5. Provide refuge for spouse to express difference, rage and conflict.
6. Build a healthy sexual life and stay away from temptation in the office. Do not regard sex only as a reproductive duty.
7. Be humorous and find time to meet friends together and do things of common interest.
8. Make yourself an available emotional reliance for spouse and be comforting and encouraging.
9. Let romance flourish and accept the real changes that come with time